When it comes to love and relationships, I think people overlook one seriously serious possibility; humans may very well not be monogamous by nature. As humans developed the ability of unique thought and feelings, they conjured up a myth that there is and should only be one person for everybody. I’m not too sure where this idea came about, but it seems inherently flawed. The entire idea of love revolves around trust, but throughout the rest of the animal kingdom, trust gets you killed. Why are humans different? Because we can decipher right from wrong? Because we can hold back from simply biting into and gnawing away the flesh of another? Most of the time, this is true; but with the lack of violence comes an overwhelming amount emotional burden. Instead of simply eating those who break our trust or those silly enough to trust you, we bottle it up, racking our brains with thoughts of why, when, how, and what if.
In no way is this meant to be cynical. Love, when it truly happens, is magnificent. It has the power to save a lost life, to invigorate the lonely, and to restore faith lost upon letdowns and confusion. I hope to fall in love again someday, but I refuse to force it. If two people are meant to fall in love, they will. I don’t actively seek a soulmate; to me seeking the person you’re meant to be with is counter productive. Forcing yourself into relationships because they may be “the one” only keeps you blind to all the other “ones” that come in and out of your life. If, in fact, there is one person that is perfect for another, then you may only meet them once. You may only see them passing by, or overhear them while eating dinner, but that may have been your only chance. And you missed it because you were busy forcing something that isn’t there.
My message is to embrace every person that comes into your life as if they may be the one; don’t overlook anybody. And certainly do not shut out the world simply because you think you already found love; statistics tell me that you didn’t.